Friday, March 27, 2015

Don't. Give. Up.


I’ve been in one of those periods in life where I’ve been in a storm for so long, I wasn’t sure the clouds were ever going to clear. But I’ve experienced some moments this past week that have struck me deeper than anything has ever struck me before. I want to speak directly to you, because I know that you’ll all understand on some level what I’m talking about. 

We push. And cry. And push again. Obstacle upon obstacle finds itself in our path, and we find ourselves in a place where we can either stop, keep pushing, or find a way around the obstacle. But what if the obstacle is ourselves? What if the obstacle isn’t something that can be defeated overnight, or even in a few years, or ever? Sometimes obstacles are nothing tangible, nothing that anyone else can remove. Nothing but demon voices in our head telling us that we’re not capable of greatness. 

The fight is real. And the storms can last for years. But sometimes, there’s this little spark deep inside of us that won’t let us quit. It’s this little voice that TELLS us to hold on. That all isn’t lost, even though the tears won’t stop and we can’t see any light. 

But sometimes… there are moments where events unfold and suddenly you realize that the storm itself was a miracle. That the clouds that were covering you was only a way to help guide you to where you really needed to be. That the pain experienced was so absolutely necessary because we wouldn’t be able to create and become who we need to become without it.  

I really don’t want this post to be cheesy, but I love you. All of you. All of you who are reading this, even if you’re a person who doesn’t particularly like me very much. :) 

This past year has been difficult, with storms so intense that it’s been a struggle to find any kind of footing. Friendships have been gained. Friendships lost. Some people disappear during these difficult times, while others hold on and give you that hand you need to pull yourself out of the darkness. 

Writing this past year has been the most emotional thing I’ve ever been through. We each have “the one story” we have to tell. It might not be the best thing we ever write, but it’s the one that holds our heart—the one that is so us. And my journey with this story isn’t something I’ll talk about now, but as I’m only a couple chapters away from completing a piece of work that I’m finally proud of, I have to say that it was worth the years of struggle… even if nothing comes from it. To hold something in your hands that you’re proud of through and through is a feeling I’ve never experienced before—but it’s something I’m experiencing now.

I recently had one of my close friends have some huge success, and I look back to when she doubted herself. And having read her manuscript, I KNEW that it would make it—that it would be the one to secure a big publisher. I remember telling her to trust in that feeling… that feeling she first felt when she sat down to put the words on the page. That FEELING that floods into your whole being when you tap into that place where creativity happens. 

Sometimes all we have is that feeling—and it’s the only thing we have to push us forward. But it’s enough, if we allow it to be enough. It’s incredible what can happen in the darkness, if we just hold onto the little bits of light that we can find. I know we all have our own special story to tell, and all of our journeys are epic in their own way, but I’m pleading with you to keep going. Because time and time again, I keep learning that through each wave, no matter how big, we can emerge from it on the other side a stronger and better person. 



Red. Head. Out. 

42 comments:

  1. I'm glad things are finally working out for you with this manuscript! I know it's been a really long struggle. Monday I know it will make it! Also, we still need to hang out :)

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  2. Because no matter how big the battle or difficult the struggles, God is always with us. He will use those storms to make us even stronger.
    Morgan, so happy this is the one for you! Rejoice.

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  3. Sharing this soon as I clear the tears and blow my nose. Seriously love you and what you're all about.
    J. Dog. Out.

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  4. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us, Morgan. You are 100% awesome and we love you! :D

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  5. Yes. I read recently where someone talked about people who had had great success and about how close they were to quitting just before things changed for them.

    "the storm itself was a miracle" Love this!

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  6. I'm a person who particularly likes you. :)
    And I wouldn't get rid of any of my storms. I like the person I am and wouldn't change the things that brought me here. That's a good spot to be in.

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  7. I know you'll succeed because you can't do anything -but- succeed.

    Even when you're doubting yourself, the rest of us will never lose faith in you. Hang in there and keep on pushing through. Personally, I can't wait to see the final results =)

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  8. Perseverance is key. Fantastically inspiring post. Have a wonderful weekend! :)

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  9. Amen sister. Can't wait to hear more about your journey, your writing, and to see our little friend's success keep getting better. Guess what though? Your hot, amazing, and worth every breath. I hear some Holy Ghost moments going on sister. LOVE YA

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  10. Congrats on nearly being done with your draft! I hope you have some amazing success with it :) And I completely agree--perseverance is key!

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  11. I hear you, so much, on all of this. Everything I've dealt with over the past month and a half, with leaving my job and moving halfway across the country and all that, has been the biggest storm I've endured in a long, long time. And it's taken a long time, but it feels like things are finally starting to clear - it's not over yet, but it's getting better, it's getting easier. I just know I have to keep going because it'll all be worth it in the end.

    And I'm hoping to start again on "that one story" later this year, hopefully not in too long. And hopefully this time, it will work out for me.

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  12. I also lived through a storm, thankfully not the kind that steals away loved ones, but the kind that steals the confidence and shreds what self esteem used to be. It was the kind of storm that even after I'd found a harbor and occasional clear sailing, images, thoughts and the state of the storm intruded. But even through all that, even with doubt in every breath, I kept going because--well, because I could lay down and die or keep going, and I was too much of a coward to choose death.

    I think those places are necessary. I don't know why they exist. I hope I don't have to go through one again, but they are great tests. One of my favorite writes calls tests gifts. She says that only through a great test can you know yourself, and knowing yourself is the greatest gift. It is the truth, so now you know more about yourself, and I, for one, cannot wait until this story of yours comes out!

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  13. HI Morgan - so pleased to see you posting again ... and yes it's interesting how life (friends) can be ephemeral and how some can always be there and will be there. You've lots going on and have had lots of experiences with life - many of us couldn't comprehend, despite our own travels along our own path and pushing those clouds out of the way - so we can reach beyond into an easier and happier place in life.

    Congratulations on being able to be here and to let us know you've nearly finished your book - that's amazing and will be so valuable to you and your family ... that's more important than possible future success - though I'm sure too that will come ... being around and involved can only bring improvements and exposure - giving others the chance to join us along our publication path.

    The blogging faternity is amazing - once friendships made ... they so often stay and succour us in times of need - perhaps in times when just a gentle comment is all we need - to know people enjoy our posts - that perks us up ... well it did me - I knew whatever went on during the day ... when I got home I'd have happy and interesting comments to read.

    Good luck and let's hope there's plenty more of those rainbow sparks ... take care and happy days ahead .. Have a fun Easter with the children and hubby - cheers Hilary

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  14. Morgan, I cannot say how happy I am that you've persevered and are now pushing others to do the same. You have such a bright light within, and I am so thrilled about your new ms!! Seriously, I need it in my hands, girl.
    As far as "success" goes, this business is a such a ride. One minute you're ready to throw in the towel, and the next minute you're on top of the world. And so it goes, with many ups and downs along the way. All you can really do is learn from the lows and enjoy the highs while not taking them for granted. I have no doubt there's a big, huge, HIGH awaiting you. Love you to pieces!

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  15. Very true, the crap can pile on and on and on, but eventually you'll get a shovel and get out of that hole and be able to shower for a week to get the smell off lol but be nice to those that don't like you? Pffft says the cat, he'll pee in their shoe.

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  17. Dang spell check.. what I meant to say was, You and me, we're like... eye to eye.

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  18. Love you, Morgan! Love your thoughts on this - the perseverance, the storm with a purpose, and the bright sunshine that breaks through the most stubborn clouds. I know the doubt. I keep writing. That's just how I handle it . . . or I go pet the cat, cuddle my kids, and take the dog for a walk until I see something past my own nose. :)
    You can do this! You're a beautiful, amazing, thought-provoking, and thoughtful lady-writer-person! :)
    Those last few chapters are going to be awesome!

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  19. The destination is not the prize; the journey to it is. Look at those champion body builders. They didn't get those muscles from sitting in front of the TV. They got them by ever-increasing weight resistance. We become champions in our own right when we resist the inertia and storms of life. I am grieved that you have suffered for so long, but you are now stronger, wiser now than before. It shows in your writing. Thanks for being there for us. Always your friend, Roland

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  20. I do think every struggle we go through makes us stronger--and better writers. It's good that we always face these obstacles because it strengthens our determination. Some people give up but when you keep going despite those obstacles, you know you were really born to be a writer.

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  21. No words were truer said....

    I'm happy to hear that you are not giving up, Morg! We can't. One should never give up on one's dream, not matter how long it takes... I know I won't. It is tough at times, but we learn from each let down and experience. We have to be patient. Frustration is part of a writer's life. The sooner you accept this fact the easier to get through the next w 24 hour period..

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  22. Its great Morgan that you go through all the struggles and are writing. All the best.

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  23. Morgan, the greatest triumphs one out of our greatest challenges. You know you always have the blogging community behind you. Best wishes with everything moving forward!

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  24. Touching words, and so true. It really matters that we keep going, especially when things get rough. You're amazingly strong, and I'm so happy you're getting that *feeling* this time around!!! <3

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  25. I love this especially the last part. Yes the big waves are scary, but we don't just get through it, we become better after it.

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  26. What an honest and inspiring post! Glad you have been writing something that you are proud of. Sometimes storms come and they may last for a long time, but it is important to still have a spark inside of us. I am glad you are learning and growing and staying positive. :) Life can be scary and hard, but it does feel good to make it through a big wave! Good luck. :) *Hugs*
    ~Jess

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  27. My reaction after reading this.

    We're pretty fond of you too. And we're also very confident in your future success. Not because you're a blog friend, but because of your awesome badassery with words. Yeah, that's the technical term.

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  28. Keep going with this feeling. It's amazing when a writer feels that emotion with a manuscript, as well as with others. When I'm reading someone else's manuscripts, I have that sensation it's going to make it, even if the struggle is long and hard for the author.

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  29. Great, heartfelt advice:) Don't give up! :)

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  30. I agree. Never give up. Awesome post, Morgan.

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  31. I'm happy you didn't give up. It's usually the easy way out and the path most regretted. Taking the path through fire makes you stronger. You rock, Morgan!

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  32. It's good to hear you're finally going through a better time. Sometimes the darkest hour is just before the sunshine.

    So far, I've had two stories of my heart, which I was compelled to tell. Both of them were inspired by and are about real people, which explains why they've been so personal and demanded they come out of years-long hiatuses.

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  33. Having followed your journey, I applaud the steps you're taking and the strides you're making. This is the inspiration pep I was in need of today. Thank you. :)

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  34. Be sure to stock your larder with plenty of friends who aren't successful so as to keep perspective on life. Recently my best friend got a new beau that I was instantly intrigued by. This guy talks (and looks) a lot like the painter Bob Ross who used to paint "happy trees" so I liked him instantly. He's a software engineer so his salary is $120,000 a year (which because I invest and follow business news I recognized as being 127% the median wage of the United States putting him in the top 5% of income earners), he owns a forge and is a blacksmith, and he's also a chef. Yes, yes, yes, I could have said, "Oh this guy makes me feel SOOO inadequate because I want that for myself." But I didn't feel any of that because I realized that this guy is what Malcolm Gladwell would call an "Outlier" in his books "Outliers"... have you read it? Anyway, my point is this: I found out he was a chef so I volunteered to eat all of his wonderful food shamelessly. When he doesn't ask for money for any of the food cost I don't bring it up and just mooch because he has this huge salary. And I compliment him at every turn so I can keep the gravy train coming. It's awesome having hugely successful people in your life :).

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  35. All it takes is perseverance. You'll finish as long as you don't stop to worry about if it's good enough. Just keep going! I have faith in you.

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  36. Morgan, I love YOU! Your heartfelt posts are always such a joy to read. I've thought of giving up many, MANY times, but I'm glad I pushed through.

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  37. Every time I see you have posted something, I always know it's going to be profound and I'll walk away feeling enlightened and grow even more fond of you. Struggles are real and I love how you always find it way through it all. You are a very strong woman and I admire you!

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  38. Thank you for sharing this, Morgan. Sometimes it feels as though those fast publishing deals are the norm, that everyone else is snatched up by an agent with their first book and everyone else lands their dream editor with a six-figure deal just days into submission. The sun always seems to shine on them, no matter what.
    I'm grateful you felt inspired to share this, because it reminds me that the majority of authors endured the darkness and climbed over huge obstacles to get to their light.

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  39. That was a beautiful post that really hit me, as I've had an extremely emotional and difficult year as well. Thank you for sharing.

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  40. Life can be an awesome, mind-boggling struggle. Yet, there's such beauty and love and more good than bad if we take shelter from the storm. Ride it out, cry, scream, pray, Because We all know that after a storm comes a rainbow. We can't give up, and the Lord is always there carrying us.

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