Wednesday, July 3, 2013

My Top 3 Insecurities For July



I’ve broken down July’s Insecure Writer's Support Group post into three different insecurities. (Again—thank you, Alex, for being the mastermind behind this)


1.)   When emailing or texting, I have the uncontrollable need to always have the last word. Not in a bad way—in an “I’m going to come off rude if I don’t acknowledge the receipt of the email kind of way.” Even if it’s clear the conversation has come to an end and I don’t need to respond, I struggle to just let a conversation be. Sometimes I have to force myself to not send a smiley face or another “thank you” so I don’t come off too obnoxious or cheesy.


2.)   I’m exclamation point happy. It’s a problem. (Not in writing--in my every day life) I wonder if there’s a 12-step program to help me. Maybe I need to try and not use any exclamation points for a whole week and see what happens… ??? Do any of you have a cure to obsessive exclamation point use?


3.)   And third, I’ve decided to jump genres with my next project. It’s going to be REALLY interesting to see how a new POV/time period/genre is going to play out with my voice. I’m so used to present tense first, so I think it’ll be a fun challenge to move into third and explore different perspectives. So I’m kind of scared, but hopeful too…


Obviously my insecurities aren’t *too* huge this month, but as always, I’d love to know how your projects are going and if you’re having any insecurities of your own!

Red. Head. Out. :D


***Oh! And I want to thank you all for your thoughtful comments with my Clique post below. It was an interesting topic and I enjoyed all of your thoughts. Though I wanted to clarify that I wasn’t harping on bloggers who don't get around to commenting because of being busy which is what some of you seemed to think—I was referring to when authors reach a certain “status” they decide to not associate with other authors. Hope that makes sense! 

57 comments:

  1. OOohhh good luck with the change in writing! I have a smiley face obsession. I use them so much in comments and texting. (I'm trying hard not to use them right now.) I almost never do a comment without a smiley. Here's one just for fun :)

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  2. Good for you for trying something entirely different for your next writing project! That sounds like an exciting challenge, and I hope you enjoy it! I'm sure it'll be awesome!!!!!<--extra exclamation points just to boost your confidence :)

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  3. i!!! think!!! this!!! was!! enlightening!! i don't have a !!! prob either, oh wait, maybe i do... i guess i'm no help!!! but jumping genres...why not? who says you can't have many colorful feathers? big bird did? ahhh...well, let me get my bb gun and set him straight. Go get them Morgs!!

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  4. Hahaha, sometimes I think we share a brain! I'm exactly the same on the first two points!

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  5. Jump those genres!!!!!
    Yeah, I might be a little exclamation point happy as well.
    And not a chance you could come off as obnoxious.

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  6. I do the same thing with texting. I'm not a huge exclamation point user and I worry sometimes that people will think I'm boring or not happy.

    I'm not a huge fan of present tense. I think long and hard about reading a book in present because it irritates me so much I can't always finish. So go ahead and try something new. :)

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  7. I always feel like I have to acknowledge texts too and if I don't then I sit there wondering if I should've. *sigh*

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  8. Good luck with changing genres, that should be fun! I use exclamation points quite a lot, I have to keep reminding myself not to use them.

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  9. Stay the way you are, Morgan....I love the exclamation points!!!! :)

    I'm a bit " :) " smiley face happy, and I think we all have our 'things' when writing.

    Have a great holiday!

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  10. Oh my goodness - Points 1 and 2 are soooooo me!! :)

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  11. Oh my goodness a good friend of mine is so exclamation point happy lol. She literally ends every sentence with three of them :)

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  12. I think I have the opposite problem - I think a conversation is over and I stop texting, and then I get a text "you there?" and I'm like, "yeah, what is it?" "You didn't answer my question." "You asked a question? *I look back* Wow! I need a cruller right now." :)

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  13. The cure for exclamation points is to read everything with an exclamation point like Will Ferrel in ELF when he hears santa is coming to the store. If you do that for a week, you'll start to laugh at them (and you'll only ever hear Will yelling OMG SANTA!!!!!). Let me know if it works.

    (and I totally try to have the last say in conversations but I feel so awkward I worry that I let them die early!)

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  14. Yes, I think you and exclamation points are a fitting combination. lol

    Happy 4th!

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  15. I'm guilty of all three! You and I would happy face text each other to death! Oh and see those !...they ocur naturally....I want you to feel my happiness!! My energy!!! It's a sickness....Leigh Covington started it...she is to blame.

    I also started an NA in first person POV, present tense. Totally different from my other books. It's fun!

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  16. How is it that we have the exact same insecurities? I'm going from 3rd to first person, but other than that I have the exact same issues. You better not respond to this comment or else we may go one forever. You're a great writer no matter what, so just hang in there :)

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  17. Oh yah, I hear you on number one and yes, I do struggle with that one. First person present is hard for me. I've done projects to hone that skill but I'm not fond of it. I do use it when I'm writing and hit a wall. I go off into a side project of the scene and change it to first person. For me, it helps see the walls and get over them.

    Mine issue is getting into the editing. Ugh. Sometimes I just want to say the end and move to the next project, lol! So, I have 90k project to read through, take notes on, and redo parts of. I'm looking for a way to tell myself it's fun. There are people who think going to the dentist is fun, too. Hmm. I'm not one of them.

    Sia McKye OVER COFFEE

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  18. Yep, I'm totally with you on #1.

    Good luck with your new project!!

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  19. Exclamation points are awesome!!!

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  20. Ha! I need that 12-step programme to help with obsessive use of the ellipses.....
    Writer In Transit

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  21. I read somewhere that you should only have three exclamation points per entire work, so use them sparingly. Although I don't necessarily agree with this (only three?), it made me take a look at my usage and scale down. So...I just quit using them altogether, even when it felt like it positively absolutely needed one.

    Going from one extreme to the other helped me find a balance and determine when they were truly needed. I do that exercise with many things in life.

    M.L. Swift, Writer

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  22. I do the same thing with emails. I have to force myself not to respond to every little one! Have a great weekend. :)

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  23. I had to laugh when I saw your first on the list. I'm like that too! I feel like the other person is going to think I'm rude if I don't respond in some way. Haha! We're a couple of weirdos, aren't we?

    I'd just like to say again that I appreciated your clique post. I got what you were trying to say and couldn't agree more. :)

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  24. I used to way overuse exclamation points in the past, which my parents tried to get me away from. No one delivers so many lines in a scream or shout in real life.

    I haven't written first-person in like 20 years, and hope I'm able to pull it off when I go to resurrect my long shelved 19th century saga in journal form.

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  25. 1. Oo. Me, too. And for the very reasons you describe.

    2. I love your !!! use. It's who you are, as far as I'm concerned. ;)

    3. Too cool! I'm going the opposite direction. My next WIP (if I ever get to it) will be a dystopian in first. 0_0 I'm nervous, but excited to try it out, all the same.

    Great post! :)
    IWSG #118 until Alex culls the list again.

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  26. Sometimes I have to go back and erase exclamation points I've written because I don't want to sound TOO excited or cheesy. I've got that problem too!

    Allison (Geek Banter)

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  27. Oh Morgan, you made me laugh today. I am the worst at closing off texts or messages and yes, will add the little smiley face to show all is well and I'm happy. I hate offending!

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  28. I have your "last word" problem when blogging. If I leave a comment and the blog author replies to it, I have a burning desire to go back and reply to the reply. Argh!

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  29. Oh you soooo shouldn't have told me you like ending conversations... this is going to be fun >> !!! <<

    In all seriousness, GOOD LUCK !!!! with your new project - and if you put in even a tenth of the effort with your current ms, I *know* it's going to be amazing :)

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  30. Im jumping genres too. Im reading an excellent chik lit book at the moment and outlining a psychological thriller ala Stepehn King.

    Change is.good and you have to jump genres from time to time.

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  31. I! too! have! a! problem! with! exclamation! points!! :)

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  32. It's funny; I just read about the dreaded exclamation points on an editor's blog and she uses them all the time! But just on her blog! The novels are a different story entirely. I think the limit is around three per book, which sounds about right.
    I love your exclamation points, and your crazy punctuation in general. They give your posts such a happy, breezy feeling. so just keep doing what you're doing! :)
    I'm excited to hear more about your new project!

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  33. Morgan, I can totally relate to the final text thing. Like, I don't want to seem like I'm a "has to have the last word" kind of gal, but I don't want to be rude either.

    Exclamation points...I love them too! I think it's because we're excitable :)

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  34. I love that exclamation marks too!!! And I have that thing about the last word in emails too, lol. Good luck with your new genre.

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  35. Tranquilizers help turn exclamation marks into periods. But then a cup of coffee brings them right back. :) It's great to try something totally new. I'm enjoying writing from a new POV (and gender) right now...it's keeping my writing fresh and exciting. I love getting into new territory and not knowing where my characters are going to end up. Have a happy holiday weekend!!! (sorry)

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  36. I tend to over do it in !!!! and (((((: in comments, emails and fb. I also say 'awesome'... a lot! :D I think all those are fine and can be fun for casual writing, plus it helps bring out part of your personality. However, in an ms or book, too many !!!! do bother me because it sounds really loud in my head. And I hear you about the ending conversation thing. I tend to be a little ocd about that as well. Anyway, good luck with your new project. You'll learn so much about your writing from the switch. <====struggled to just leave without putting an ! at the end. (:

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  37. Oh, my, gosh, Morgan!!!!! I guess you and I are sharing a brain, but I didn't know it until reading this post!!!! See, there's the !!!! proof. I do all of these and am actually toying with a WIP in 3rd, but usually write in 1stperson/present too. I think my biggest offender is #1. There's no way I'll ever look cool because I can't let the darn convo die, then it just becomes back and forth smileys, lol! Wow, glad to know I'm not the only person who does that. :) Thanks for sharing.

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  38. I know the feeling about "the last word". Sometimes it feels so weird to just leave things hanging. Though others do it to me all the time. haha.

    Also, I am all over the place when it comes to genres! I don't have any 'set' one that I like to write within, or any age group, any POV or anything like that.

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  39. I can definitely sympathise with the first 2 - there's nothing wrong with being a little enthusiastic!

    As for the 3rd point, it's always a good idea to challenge yourself, to push yourself beyond what you think of as your boundaries. I think working in different genres and POVs is a good idea anyway - breaking down boundaries can be a good way to come up with new and original combinations of ideas, rather than the same old generic conventions.

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  40. There's nothing wrong with having only small insecurities for a month or two. We all need a break sometimes.

    Good luck with your POV/tense shift. I'm still deciding if my MG story should be first or third. I prefer third as a general rule, but I've read so many MG and YA books lately that are in first, I find myself toying with the idea of making my story first person too. That's one of my insecurities this month.

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  41. OMGoodness, SAME!!! Ending a text convo is SO awkward!!! I felt every single word of your #1. Every word.

    And, oh I will never break up with the exclamation point (or ellipses)! If there's a support group to quit it, I won't ever attend. BUT, only in informal use online, texting convos etc. My feelings about exclamation points in novels is the polar opposite. My opinion on them in fiction is you get (maybe) two or three in the entire book, and then ONLY in dialog and then only when it's truly warranted. Like: "HELP! The monster just ripped my leg off!" Anyway, I feel insecure about plenty of things, but I don't feel insecure about my exclamation point abuse. I embrace it enthusiastically. :) I hope you'll embrace it too. <3 We can start a club.

    Good luck with your shiny new story and POV etc.! I truly believe it's important to constantly challenge ourselves and experiment with our writing.

    Happy Fourth of July!
    Lola

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  42. I've jumped genres and it's pretty interesting, and depending on the idea it's what works best.

    Many times I end up deleting ellipses and exclamation points because of overuse.

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  43. I can so totally related with your #1. It's like an obsessive compulsive disorder. My honor and dignity demand that I be the last to say thank you. When a similarly afflicted soul corresponds with me the email chain is endless. :)

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  44. Cool that you're trying new things. You're just excited by conversations, nothing obnoxious about that.

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  45. Hi Morgan .. mine would be ........ rather too many of them! I do stop emailing - but always like to thank people!! Then those things well they crop up occasionally ..

    Cheers and happy Fourth of July day .. Hilary

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  46. Sorry, I had to laugh at #1, haha. And I don't overuse exclamation points, but I overuse the em-dash. It's seriously a problem. Good luck with your genre jump. I think it should be fun!

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  47. Hehe, I over-exclamation point on the social networks too! (see?) The only thing I do to control it is to let them flow naturally...then go back & edit out at least half of them before I hit that button.

    Have fun experimenting w/ the new genre & POV style. Experimenting is my favorite. :)

    Have a great weekend, Red!

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  48. Me too!!!!! <3 I'm jumping genre too. We share so much, my friend! !! !!!

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  49. It should be fun to jump genres - kept thing spicy!!!!(those exclamations are for you)

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  50. If you do find an exclamation point 12-step, let me know! I totally need it :) Best of luck on your new project!!

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  51. I approve of jumping genres. Writers who don't do this (for me) become stale.

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  52. thank's for your information !

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  53. Thought of this post again today when I got a text with a dozen exclamation points LOL

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  54. Oh I definitely have trouble letting a texting conversation end. I've always got to send along an "okie dokie", a smiley face or something even when I'm pretty sure it's not necessary.
    I'm trying something new with my next novel as well. I feel like I always default to first person present tense and I'm getting a little sick of it.
    Have fun with the new project!

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  55. I'm the opposite. I always write in past/third person limited. And I'm writing a YA paranormal/horror (new genre) in present/first person. It's been REALLY hard, but a great learning experience.

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  56. Lol! I'm same. Always feel something is missing if I don't reply to last email. And exclamations!

    Nas

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  57. I totally over 'exclaim'!!!! Hehehehe! But not in my writing...thank goodness. Don't have as big a problem with the text thing, but I have many friends who do. I just smile and shake my head. It doesn't bug me.
    And I jumped projects with a contest I entered in the spring. It was for a literary magazine and I'd never tried to write literary. I prefer genre typically, but it was fun to try. I ended up placing in the top 16 of over 100 entries. Not bad for a first try, so I say, "You go, girl!" I bet you'll do great no matter the genre.

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