What is it that makes some people so nice and others so… well, lame?
I’m floored by the kindness some people exude just… because. People who take the time to step outside of themselves and say something nice, spend hours on a crit, or even say “thank you.”
It’s such a difference from the people who… well, don’t. And I’m not speaking about people you randomly brush shoulders with and are busy in their lives, I’m talking about people who go out of their way to be rude. It’s interesting.
As a writer, you learn how to take criticism, absorb it, apply it to make you stronger. But there are trolls out there whose sole purpose is to look for ways to put you down.
I’m one of those people who like to give a person the benefit of the doubt. Maybe I’m too trusting. Maybe not. I can get feisty, and I can think of mean ways to retort, but do I do it? Do most of us?
This is a business. And whether you’re friends, acquaintances, or “enemies,” there should always be a level of respect and professionalism. I’m shocked with how catty and competitive people can be. And it’s too bad.
And really, I’d say that 90% of the population is supportive and wonderful. It’s just that the negative seems to amplify, doesn’t it? It sucks you down, wants you to be miserable with them. It’s poison.
Which is why I think it’s so important to seize onto the good. Don’t let it go. Find those people that you know have your best interests at heart. They’re there. People who won’t backstab you and aren’t thinking solely of their own success.
So what’s the difference between a troll and a friend? What’s the key component? Is it fear? Jealousy? It’s not as if there’s only room for one person to be successful. Have you experienced this first hand?
Or what is it that makes people drop everything just to serve? (Thinks of all my awesome beta readers right now…) And is there a gray? From my view right now, it seems pretty black and white.
This is something that’s been on my mind for a while and I’d love to know your thoughts.
And on a side, "par-tay" note, last weekend I got to spend some time with some amazzzzing great people in this writing world. To see pics and get the low down, check out David Powers King and Leigh Covington’s sites. They do a fab job summing it all up!
Red. Head. Out. :D