When I'm online, I kind of put on a mask--a persona. <---Not a bad one, just one that I think is essential. I strike conversation, smile, exude happiness and positivity to other writers around me (hopefully not obnoxiously so) It's like playing a part, to an extent.
To survive in this business, making connections is crucial. We're all doing it, trying to friend one another, gain support.
But when does it get to be too much? Or where's the line between real and fake?
There are some out there that only look at you like a number. How many people have you run into that befriend you and then dump you the minute you download their book? *shakes head*
It hurts when this happens. Yeah, sure, all of my friendships aren't the BFF type, but I do try to show sincerity wherever I go.
The difference between the real and the fake (and I'd like to consider myself real) is that I do care. We're all in this business together. Or we should be. But I guess, just like the "real" world, there are people out there that only have one thing on their mind. Their own success. ***And yes, I get that some people don't have time to buddy up, but etiquette should be shown at all times... maybe I'll do a post on etiquette for writers on twitter or something...***
Most of my best friends are my online writer friends. Truth. I've got such a tight knit group that has been through a lot. And one thing I've learned (and felt myself) is that true or real friendship is when you find success through others. In my group, I am the odd one out--in the fact that I'm not agented or have a book deal yet. But you'd never know it by the way I'm treated. Real friends treat you as an equal, regardless of where your status is. I do hope to have my own success someday, but I do find joy at seeing my friends succeed. On the flip side, I also feel great sorrow when they're down.
This isn't meant to be a slam on the fake people out there--well, maybe it is (har har) But what I hope comes across here is that there ARE real people out there that care and will stick by you no matter what. Find those people and hold onto them, because it can make a difference in whether you survive in this business or not.
Where are you on the real to fake scale? (LOL) Have you come across both? Is there such a thing as "real" in this business? I'd love to know your thoughts on this topic.
Red. Head. Out. :D